by Kathy Marlor, St. Pete. Self Defense
One of the most basic principles of self-defense is to follow your gut instincts or listen to your intuition. Doing that can help you stay safer and out of trouble on a day-to-day basis. It’s sounds simple enough, doesn’t it?
After all, animals do it every day. While watching a tv show, have you ever seen a herd of antelope take off “out of the blue” without seeing a reason for them to do so? A few seconds later a hungry lion appears from the brush, with a disappointed look on his face that his tasty meal escaped before he had a chance to chase it down. His opportunity was foiled because of the animal’s intuition or gut instincts. Animals, unlike humans don’t second guess themselves and don’t hesitate to take action to get to safety.
Have you ever felt like something bad was going to happen, ignored the feeling and then later something bad did happen?
Rather than listening to our intuition, many of us allow our logical brain to rationalize all the reasons that our intuition must be wrong. We have to realize that our “alarm bell” doesn’t go off to trick us. Our intuition is there to protect us, so why don’t we always listen?
I often ask that question when I teach a FAST Defense seminar. The answers I get range from “I thought I was imagining it.” Or “I ignored that feeling because I didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.” “I was in denial and didn’t want to deal with it.”
Can you think of another reason that you or someone else would ignore their intuition?
I believe that some of us are socially conditioned to not listen to our intuition for fear of being told that we’re being silly or imagining it; or are afraid of hurting someone else’s feelings; don’t want to be inconvenienced by changing our initial plans or thoughts, etc. Regardless of the reason people have for ignoring this inner voice, you hear about amazing incidences where people did listen and have avoided injuries, disasters and even death.
Have you ever heard of someone switching their flight on a plane because they had a bad feeling and then later discovered that it crashed? How about a woman deciding to not jog down a certain road, and she later finds out that someone was attacked on that road during the time she would have been jogging? What about a teen who decides to cut a conversation short with a stranger who gives him a creepy feeling and later sees him on the news for committing a serious crime? The list could go on and on…
I can tell you that many years ago, when I was 22 years old, I and three other people were suppose to show-up at a business at 8:30 a.m. on the same day. All three of us, although we didn’t communicate with each other, chose to change our plans. At the business at approx. 8:30 a.m. that day, a disgruntled friend of the business owner came in and shot his son, killed him and killed himself. Who knows what would have happened to the rest of us if we had not listened to our intuition and had still shown up at that day?
If you’d like to get in the habit of listening to your intuition, it’s never too late to begin. Follow your gut whether it’s about your personal safety, friends, a job or other situations and decisions you need to make. If you’re tempted to shift back into old habits, just remember that your intuition is there to protect, guide and help you.
About the Author: Kathy Marlor is a 4th degree black belt and former World Open Taekwondo Champion with over 28 years combined experience in teaching martial arts and real world self-defense. She’s a 7-time certified instructor and coach with the International FAST Defense Association who enjoys helping people discover how they can stay safer by teaching them how to access danger, prevent or resolve conflict and to fight back to win when necessary. For private seminars, speaking engagements and more, please contact her at: Kathy@Stpeteselfdefense.com.